We can expect the “manosphere” and MRA communities to come under fire in the wake of Elliot Rodger’s heinous mass murder. He was, after all, the quintessential “Average Frustrated Chump” and his motives appear, at this point, to be the same sort of sexual and emotional frustration that propels much of the Manosphere and MRA community. My prayers are with the families who’ve lost loved ones due to this inexcusable and unforgivable act, but my thoughts are primarily about why this occurred, where the blame truly lies, and how we can prevent further atrocities of this nature.
Don’t doubt for a minute that more of this is in the pipeline. Young men in America, particularly White men, are being force-fed a toxic brew of high self-esteem, abysmal mentorship, astronomical expectations, and soul-crushing outcomes which directly lead to the very sort of bitterness and resentment featured in Mr. Rodger’s videos. While only a mere fraction of young men will lash out so spectacularly, the decline and fall in American gender relations is already manifested in myriad ways, ways which will become more impactful as demographic pressures and our declining economy exacerbate the tension.
America’s departure from traditional monogamy is facilitated by the secular welfare state, one which “empowers” young women to be more selective with their mating partners. Given that there is a fixed population of males, the end result is a hyergamous competition for a small fraction of highly successful and promiscuous males. A large and growing subset of young men in our society are affected by this de facto polygamy.
The growing chorus of “lost boys” who aren’t content to resign themselves to lives of celibacy and the stench of failure has been covered in depth elsewhere in the blogosphere. Those sites typically encourage young men to become more “alpha”, more confident, and more desirable to women. This advice ranges from wholesome and pragmatic mentorship to sociopathic screeds on how to manipulate and exploit women. But that’s pretty much the range. The conversation is never about how to repair our broken gender dynamic, but how to become the “alpha” within the dynamic.
The conversation is rarely about how the majority of women who play this game, after “riding the carousel”, fail to obtain a high-status male. Had Elliot Rodger waited it out, he assuredly would have found himself with a nice thirty-something girl with some mileage on her. He wouldn’t be entirely thrilled about ending up with a promiscuous and aging wife, though she probably wouldn’t be entirely thrilled about ending up with a snotty, resentful, whiny husband. He was, mass murder aside, a spectacularly shallow and pampered douchebag. The fact that not one single woman went near him despite his handsomeness and wealth is a glowing testament to feminine instincts.
Life’s not fair, which brings us back to Elliot’s conviction that he somehow deserves female affection. And why wouldn’t he? From his earliest memories, he’s been reminded regularly just how special, unique, precious, perfect, and even “supreme” he is. We all are, in American education, in American films, in American media, and in American culture. We’re all told that we’re winners right up until adulthood kicks off and we’re bludgeoned with repeated setbacks and humiliations. Elliot wasn’t going to take it, though. Elliot, adopting and embracing pop culture’s anti-bullying language, fully justified his actions within our Modern secular context. In his eyes, he’s a hero in the liberal battle against all those jocks, brutes, bullies, blondes, and “popular kids” who’ve victimized him.
The solution is for young men and women to develop a subculture in which true and eternal traditional love reclaims its rightful place in their hearts and minds. We’re all, males and females alike, victims of this society’s degenerate sexual politics. As long as we’re riding the carousel–or bitterly crossing our arms and glaring at the carousel, wondering why we don’t get to ride on it–we’re going to continue piling up bastard children, broken homes, bitter old maids, and frustrated young men.
This is the promised post-Christian age of liberation from monogamy, chastity, humility, and objective morality. Elliot Rodgers, George Sodini, Adam Lanza, and the mass murderers yet to come are men who eagerly bought Modernity’s promise of self-glorification and self-gratification, only to find themselves neither glorified nor gratified. These revolts within the Modern world will amplify and intensify until we learn to revolt against the Modern world. Paradoxically, only by rejecting the zero-sum rat race for glory and gratification can we spare ourselves the indignity and humiliation to come.